Here are just but afew points of what was shared during #LustAndTheCity Machakos with Ernest Wamboye as the speaker
Bible Text -Genesis 2;15-25
Vs 15 ‘The Lord took the man and put him in the Garden of Eden to work it and take care of it. Eden means a place of delight and joy and so Adam was in a state of joy and delight before he met Eve.
1. Adam had a relationship with God before he had a relationship with the opposite sex. Is God your delight? Your source of joy? Lord means one who has complete control of your life –who is the Lord of your life? For you to get delight and joy you need Jesus to be the Lord of your life.
Are you a relationship atheist? In that you don’t believe there is God in your relationship. You allow God in your life except in your relationship?
2. Adam is given purpose by God. Purpose involves work. What is your purpose on earth? You were uniquely made with a unique task to fulfil. Believers have the task of the great commission – Mathew 28;19 ‘
Question; If all jobs paid the same, what would you do? What is your passion? Your spiritual gifts? Natural abilities? Acquired abilities? Personality? Your experiences? They make up who you are.
Are you missionary dating? – Dating with an unbeliever thinking you will convert her/him?
Don’t look to women/men for things only God can give. Its only God who gives direction, purpose, satisfaction.
‘Don’t look to women/men for things only God can give. Its only God who gives direction, purpose, satisfaction.’
3. Knowledge of the word of God made capable by the Holy spirit
-You need to know the scriptures thoroughly – Psalms 119;9,11
-God’s word is true even when I don’t think it’s true or don’t feel like it.
‘God’s word is true even when I don’t think it’s true or don’t feel like it.’
READ- Rev 1;3
HEAR – Romans 10;17
STUDY – Acts 17;11
MEMORISE – Psalms 119;9,11
MEDITATE – Psalms 1;1-3
PRACTISE – John 13;17
‘Going to church is good but it doesn’t make you a Christian more or less as standing in a garage doesn’t make you a vehicle/ mechanic.’
Going to church is good but it doesn’t make you a Christian more or less as standing in a garage doesn’t make you a vehicle/ mechanic.
Because men were meant to lead they should be truly grounded in the word – They need to disciple their children.
Knowledge of God is sexy – Kabla uende gym jiunge na Christ.
‘Knowledge of God is sexy – Kabla uende gym jiunge na Christ’
‘Whatever sustains a relationship/marriage is the word of God because it last forever.’
‘If beauty mattered in marriage/relationships; Hollywood marriages would be the ideal, …..but they are NOT.’
Its only after Adam had ; had a relationship with God, had a purpose and knowledge of the word of God, did God say vs 18 ‘It is not good for the man to be alone, I will make a helper suitable for him.’
Adam was the only human being on earth and trusted God for a partner…why do you panic when you haven’t found the one, yet there are over seven billion people on earth?
Vs 21a ‘So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep’
Deep sleep- peace
God gave Adam peace
When you are ready you must have the peace of God by trusting in Him – Trust Gods timing.
Vs 22a ‘Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib
God made/fashioned the woman – Made Eve for Adam
The woman was not made from the feet to be stepped on by the man , or the head to compete with the man but from the side/rib to walk side by side
Vs 22b ‘He brought her (Eve) to the man (Adam)
God brought Eve to Adam
For the ladies
– Don’t be anxious that he hasn’t seen/noticed you, God will bring Him to you.
If you attract him with your burst, he will get one with a bigger burst – busted!
‘Ladies, if you attract him with your burst, he will get one with a bigger burst – BURSTED!!’
Vs 23 The man said. ‘ Finally! One like me, with bones from my bones and a body from from my body.She was taken out of a man , so I will call her woman. ERV
Finally / At last – Adam finds bone of his bones
The man has to make a move –decide and make a decision.
Don’t invest in a relationship if you don’t expect to reap from it – you defraud another. So as to avoid defrauding another ;
You need to have boundaries – Emotional, physical and spiritual boundaries.
Avoid spending time and having conversations exclusively.
Get to know a person in a group – you get to see the person in totality.
In Sherie Grafs book, there are five levels of a conversation
Bio-data – basic information e.g. name, age, occupation, likes, residence (probably already provided on Facebook)
Testimonials – general experiences
Dreams and aspirations – your passions
Fears – phobias, deep reservations
Hurts – emotional wrecks
Our vulnerabilities fall under level 4 and 5.We are warned against sharing our vulnerabilities exclusively with persons of the opposite sex.
The only best friend from the opposite sex should only be your wife/husband.
Vs24 ‘That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh’
Some would say Adam did not have a father/mother yet Moses ( the writer of Genesis) mentioned this verse…….this verse was not for Adam but for us
Vs 25 ‘Adam and his wife were both naked and they felt NO SHAME.
Naked without shame.
When we use sex without God it brings shame and nudity – distortion of Gods plan
‘When we use sex without God it brings shame and nudity – distortion of Gods plan’
‘Purity is more than your physical virginity, purity is from the heart’
Sex is talked about in the bible without shame e.g Proverbs 5;18-19 , Songs of Solomon 1;2