Sexual immorality is on the increase all over the world. Adultery is fast becoming the norm and men of God are also joining the club. Married women are not left out, many are having secret lovers and emotional affairs are becoming the order of the day.

The rate at which immorality is increasing is alarming! It is spreading fast into every nook and cranny and children are also being initiated into the club. It’s no news that 4, 5 years old kids now have sex with each other. Staying sexually pure these days is becoming a Herculean task.
One of the reasons people fall flat into illicit sex is over confidence. The stupid belief that you can be free around the opposite sex and nothing would happen!
A lot will happen! One of the ways you can stay sexually pure whether married or single these end time is to set strict boundaries. If you are too careless around the opposite sex, you will fall flat on your face! That is the truth. The ealier you believe this and work on it, the better. You can’t be careless around the opposite sex and hope to stay sexually pure, set boundaries!
There are some people who can’t be your friends, raise the standard. Any body can call you names, that’s their headache, you have your destiny to protect. As a rule, I don’t make friends with liars, gossips and jealous women. They make life so complicated. If you believe in illicit sex, we can’t be friends, period!

Monitor your chats. Don’t allow anybody send you flirty messages, no matter how innocent it sounds, warn them and if they refuse to stop, block them!
Limit the hugs and touches. I don’t hug men as a rule. If I must hug, my husband must be around and you should hug both of us. If your hugging anointing is only for women, I want none of it.
Don’t allow anybody call you pet names (except your close family members and same sex friends), it doesn’t make any sense. Pet names turn the opposite on, if you don’t know that, know it right now.
Be sensitive to attractions. Don’t be naive around the opposte sex, know when a man/ woman is sexually attracted to you and move back from that person. If they focus too much on your physique and body, they are sexually attracted to you, move back.
Know when you are sexually attracted to someone and move back. It’s perfectly normal to have chemistry for someone. Marrying the greatest man on earth or the most beautiful, virtous woman in the universe will not automatically stop you from being attracted to someone else. Know when the thought of another man/ woman get you excited and move back.
Don’t jump at new relationships. Give it time. Study the person, know what they stand for, see if your core values are compatible, if not, move back!
Leadership attracts all kinds of people. If you are a leader or you are gifted, talented or intelligent, the opposite sex will show more interest in you, be careful whom you allow to get close to you.
Accepts gifts with care. Men don’t joke with their time and money. If he spends so much time and money on you especially when you do not ask, he may one day ask for sex. Stop begging men for money. Work with your two hands and raise your standard. Men will respect and honour you for it.
Work on your marriage. Fix the problem as soon as possible or else you get attracted to someone who gives you what you lack in your marriage, adultery is the result.
Be prayerful, be watchful. Jesus says “watch and pray that ye may not fall into temptation…”
Don’t stay with the opposite sex in a dark or lonely room.
Don’t counsel the opposite sex on a bed in a lonely room.
Avoid provocative dresses and pictures. Let your spouse advice you on what is okay for you.

Mind the pictures you post on the social media, if it is getting unecessary opposite sex attention, delete it.
Don’t visit the opposite sex alone, it doesn’t make sense.
These and more are the things you need to do to stay sexually pure in this 21st century.
People may laugh at you, it doesn’t matter. They may call you a neurotic, psychotic, fanatic, over sensitive or paranoid, don’t give a damn! Your destiny is too precious to waste on the altar of sin. Avoid friends who make fun of holiness and make friends with people who appreciate purity and holiness. You will not fall in Jesus name. God bless you all.


Claudia Gray quotes, ‘Self knowledge is better than self control any day, Raquel said firmly. And I know myself well enough to know how I act around cookies.’

Leave the last part. 

I am a child of God and Everytime I am told on Sexual Matters, I should practice self control. 

Most times we practice self control not because we understand why we are doing it but because we were told to.

Today I would like you to just understand what your body is let’s go to 

1 Corinthians 6:19 

It says
*Do you not know that your body is the temple of the HOLY SPIRIT… who is in you, whom you have received from GOD you are not your OWN; you were bought at a price therefore honor GOD with your body.
You are the temple of the holy Spirit, do you want him to come into a filthy place to worship?.
A place filled with immoral thought, you are God’s child. 
The issue is always *LUST*
Truth be told, Marriage doesn’t solve The problem or MONSTER called *LUST* having a girlfriend doesn’t solve that but,
 having GOD and knowing who you are to him and what he wants for you is one step to the solution, 

(Here you have to read the word, to speak it, to pray it)
Knowing that indeed that lust is an issue to you is another step there.(Self Awareness)
 Then the third step is establishing how it affects you(what does it make you do? Is does it lead to fornication, masturbation all those sexual acts)
But of all things the first real deal is going back to the basics…
*An act before is becomes an act it is always a thought.*

How are the thoughts stirred up in you?
Knowing what triggers those thoughts:
Is It that series you’ve been watching….
 Is it that girl whose DP you are always stalking?
 Is it that friend who sends you suggestive texts?
Is it your girlfriend who dresses in a suggestive manner?
Then from there you can start self control not by CONTROLLING yourself when you are just about to think SEx or do SEX, but from the SOURCE.
That is real SELF CONTROL.

Why sex is for marriage ONLY & 8 benefits of waiting.

A Single Young Christian Mom


This topic sparks such a passion in me.  I know all too well the consequences of sex before marriage.  Now that I am in a relationship that has NOTHING to do with sex (yes, we have been dating almost 2 years, engaged for the last year, and have NOT had sex), I see the blessings and benefits in waiting for marriage.  Now it is clear to me that God made sex to be for marriage only, and I want to share what He’s taught me so far.

Before I had found and committed myself to following Jesus, I didn’t really see sex before marriage as a problem.  If we are have all these sexual urges and desires, it must not be a bad thing… right?  It was completely normal in my high school, actually.  I remember the pressure I felt to have sex with each boy I dated.  I…

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A christian perspective on social mediaPublication1

  1. What am I really posting?

What are the songs you’re sharing really saying? Is the language you are using honoring to God? Are you posting jokes with questionable humor? Make sure your statuses line up with the kind of thing

Philippians 4:8 Whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable …if anything is excellent or praiseworthy, think about such things.

  1. Are you seeking to glorify God through social media?

“So, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.”1 Corinthians 10:31

Isaiah 43:7 – We were created for Gods glory,  when we stray from our life’s God-given purpose, we quickly fall away  where God wants us to be.

  1. Does social media lead you into sin?

If your right eye causes you to sin, tear it out…

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Lateness To Church


Ever since I was born, I have never seen many people arrive late to the airport, when they’re traveling overseas. In fact, even when it’s raining,and the plane is taking-off at 11:00pm, this person will put on gumboots, Rain-coat or an Umbrella, and use every means available, be it a motorbike,or a 4 wheel drive, to be at the airport by 7:00pm, as he awaits his flight…wow! That’s how much people value traveling overseas!!

But on a Sunday morning when Church has long begun, that’s when you see men and women with ‘swag’ gliding like a wounded tortoise to Church. Worse still, when it rains, church records the poorest attendance. 
They only come to church on sunny days….Yes…They know they are late, but because they have a new Armani suit-on and the latest Michael Kors bag,which they feel everyone should see.

Church starts at 7:00 or 8:30am, but people will come at 10:00am, why? They think praise and worship is for the uncivilized.

If you think what I’m saying is a lie, just take the test to call them on Monday at 5:30am, you’ll realize they are already on their way to work, and some will be at work already. 
Most of this people wake up at 4am, to beat the jam, so that by 6am, they have paid cheep and up-in town in time, before traffic starts building…The price is the same on Sunday, [cheap] but sudden laziness for the things of God just makes them not see its value.

Going to the airport early and going to work early, far outweighs the need to go to church early.

They love the blessings, but the blesser is put on the side-lines, as they pa-sue what they think is important.
Yes, many times,such people are busy on weak-days, thus have no time for midweek services…eg prayer meetings and once per months night vigil….why? because they are attending evening classes, which they religiously attend in time. 
Infact, if classes start at 5:30pm, they will be in class revising by 5pm, and if their bosses are kind,they will borrow some time-off as often, to be in school by 4pm, to prepare for the evening sessions. 
Time is always available, for anything that adds value to their flesh, but their spiritual lives are put on the sidelines. I have no time to tell you how some of them, who are parents, will drive their children to school as early as 6am, before going to work, but have no time to wake the same children on Sunday, to attend Sunday school in their church?
Know this today, anytime you go to Church one minute late, you have NOT attended Church at all.
If Christ is saying ‘where two or three are gathered, I’m in their midst’, do you think He comes late?
The time you give is the time he keeps.
What does it mean to arrive late to Church
1) Disrespect to Christ
2) Betrayal of Christ
3) Disregard to the Church and the priest or Pastor
4) Interruption of church members,as they look behind to see or hear you matching to your seat with your high hill shoes.
Now consider all these, and tell me if this people have not sinned?
Keep in mind that the eternal flight is not a flight taking you overseas, but Heaven!

 Don’t miss it! Stop this habit, repent!
It hurts the Lord to see you punctual in other forums,while in his sanctuary, you are always late. Remember going to church early is an appointment with destiny, that is why he said “Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need.[Matthew 6:33]. This means,God should come first in the list of your priorities, so from today,let us set our priorities right.
God bless. Shalom!